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To the Editor:
Re “An Adoptee’s Lifelong Search for Home,” by Cindy Zhu Huijgen (Opinion guest essay, Sept. 16):
When I read this article, I had many mixed feelings. I am a Chinese American who grew up in America in the 1950s and shared some of Ms. Huijgen’s feelings of being an outsider.
When living in Shanghai, my family and I volunteered at the city orphanage and met a little girl whose tip of her nose had been bitten off by a small animal. We eventually adopted her when she was 2 years old, as we foresaw a bleak future for her in China. The reconstruction surgeries were easy compared with dealing with her PTSD and ADHD.
Adopted kids take a big risk being assigned to strangers, but parents who adopt children also take a big risk.
I know many Chinese adoptees and some turn out just fine, but others deal with longstanding emotional, academic and behavior issues. People who adopt tend to think that love conquers all. It doesn’t. Nonetheless, I think that most American parents try their very best to provide for therapy, corrective surgeries, academic help, etc.
Many kids adopted from China have not been back there and have not seen the poverty that exists outside the big cities. If they had grown up with their biological parents, they might not have some of the problems they have here, but more than likely these kids, due to poverty, would not have the advantages offered here.
I can see both sides of the complex problem involving Chinese government policies (one-child policy) and the circumstances that produced them, cultural beliefs (males favored over females), poverty and human greed, but I also see human compassion and love.
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